[隨筆] [單身是可以寂寞的]

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單身不一定會焦慮和寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡaE6r6p9uN7
有拖拍又不一定會不焦慮和不寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡLoDcO32rkR
但單身是可以寂寞的，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡLAtdMefYOE
寂寞的感覺是可以被容許和接納的。

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有太多閒言閒語和刻版印象，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡJrsWL4dLnX
令到單身人士與「寂寞」、「孤癖」、「沒人愛」、「有問題」等負面詞劃上等號，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡkRgMUG0F8G
弄到「單身會寂寞」好像是多麼不要得、是多麼失敗的狀態。419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡllCOsVk7fi
單身人士明明活得自在，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡgKFMxak7DX
但為了不想被標籤負面形象，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ5H8aSAmoWN
又想為單身一族平反，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡMGLmnYJ7jA
也要花力氣刻意解釋自己仍然安好地生活。419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡRtuI435qi6
同樣地，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡjnYH72qj8r
這亦令到單身人士不敢寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡdR4xqYaogR
或者不敢感受和承認自己的寂寞。

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我們知道自己時常會寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡRqg14Z86Os
卻不願意好好去接納「寂寞」。

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單身一人也可以尋到自己的興趣、人生目標、朋友圈子，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡLYJGCnMPYo
可以活得精彩，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡKeW23kjOcA
同時，單身也是可以寂寞的，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡSxhHGm9So5
It's ok!419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8NITy6qPD4
寂寞的原因因人而異，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡuQ8csRE33N
可能是因為沒有伴侶而失意，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡrVb5aLrOt9
也可能是因為不被支持、不被明白而寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ9lmQ8xhWEf
但什麼寂寞的原因也好，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡC2wKVOF1z8
也是這句：It's ok!

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寂寞的感覺是令人不舒服和不安穩，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡlX4mgWLlrm
有點像浮於一片無盡的大海之中，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ31A9Kcb05n
好像世界並無自己的立足之地，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡLO9bpck3Ff
這感覺是可怕的，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡtB9WrMTKNZ
但這感覺並不是羞恥，並不是失敗。419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡrinbHnWuUg
每個人都會經歷過這種不佳的狀態，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡRfAY7WJLYv
只差你敢不敢承認自己的渴望與脆弱。

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「情緒」需要被看見、被接納，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡVp7QCWDKPG
一旦你可以開放內心去接納自己任何好與壞的情緒，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ9XFYZ2k3aB
切切感受那份「情緒」過後，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmK2X1DFlgr
你學習到與「情緒」和平、安然共處，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡVBsnSz9zJn
「情緒」就不會再糾纏你，可以漸漸自然流去。

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「寂寞」並不可怕，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡO2L9XbX2Sc
只要它來到時你不抗拒它，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡDkEtVmuL27
不要故作沒事跟自己說：419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡdaRcKAFWNs
我不可以寂寞。419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2tSvWchHxz
也不要強硬地想一時三刻就能一手掃開「寂寞」，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ71QDeRA57z
愈抗拒它，它就愈存在。419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ85GczKsnAs
慢慢一步一步接納「寂寞」就是自己的一部分，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡnyAhMOsJr9
就會沒那麼難受。

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你是可以不OK的，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡgCdqfFUsDA
你是可以寂寞的，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡKaWYlhA6bl
It's ok!419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡAKaDc9ukfi
你要學習面對自己的寂寞，419Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡPefkchL9np
也要容許自己有「做不到」的過程。

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